“How about we replace the term ‘social distancing’ with ‘physical distancing’?”
Event cancellations. Travel restrictions. Empty supermarket sections. All can create a sense of surrealism, disconnection, and fear. At times of heightened worry and uncertainty, human connection is more essential than ever. Yet we are told to practice “social distance.”
Whenever difficulties arise, I try to be part of the solution. What can I contribute now?
First, I propose we replace the term “social distancing” with “physical distancing.” It seems more precise, while leaving room for finding creative ways to meet our need for emotional connection. Yes, to slow the spread of the coronavirus, we need to stay farther apart physically. And we still need to participate in one another’s lives, to “see” each other and be seen by one another, to know and be known.
Like a lot of people, this past week I’ve reached out to others more using computer video services. The next-door neighbors and I talk across the fence, maintaining extra space between us. I’ve even resorted to old-fashioned telephone calls, which are just as satisfying as I recall from days before email and texts, a topic explored in my last blog.
In addition, starting this Saturday, my treasured colleague, psychologist Nate Page and I are joining forces to offer a new free, weekly, guided meditation session that we’re calling “Lemonade.” We hope it will help mitigate worry and isolation. Here’s more information on that and some other offerings that may help a bit as we navigate these unfamiliar waters:
1) “Lemonade,” Free, Weekly, Live, Virtual Meditations
Saturdays 10:30-11:10 a.m. Central Time
30-minute guided meditation practice such as
Visit www.fullheartliving.com for details.
2) Free Recorded Meditations
From two meditations based on my book to autogenics and guided imagery, moving meditation and more, find 13 recorded meditations at https://tomglaserlp.com/resources/meditations. In the coming weeks I plan to add more to the collection, including some based on Kristin Neff and Christopher Germer’s outstanding work with Mindful Self-Compassion.
3) $5.00 off Full Heart Living Conversation Sparks card game
Based on my book, this fun, interactive card game builds relationships and lasting connections through meaningful conversations. What sets these conversation starters apart is that all questions are based on themes gleaned from the happiest people I know as outlined in Full Heart Living, and the detailed instructions that focus on active listening. Use them with your family or roommates at home or strike up a game over the phone or internet. Regularly $29.99. NOW $24.99.
4) Free Virtual Conversation Sparks Games
Whether on Facebook Live or on Zoom, I’m in the process of organizing free, virtual Full Heart Living Conversation Sparks Games. Check www.fullheartliving.com often for details and updates, and I’ll send out another e-blast when we know more.
5) Discounted E-book
Why not use the extra time at home to catch up on reading? Once again the Full Heart Living e-book is just $.99.
View Full Heart Living videos and my new series on Resilience Following Trauma at my YouTube channel.
However you manage to do so, remain connected to those you care about! The number one thing I learned in writing my first book, Full Heart Living, is that the happiest people make that a top priority. Please leave comments below with creative ways you’re maintaining relationships these days.
TODAY’S CONVERSATION SPARKS
Have a conversation with a friend or family member in which both of you explore the following questions. Listen deeply and speak from the heart.
- What can you do today to connect more deeply with others?
- How are you making lemonade in the age of physical distancing?
ABOUT THE AUTHOR Tom Glaser is a Minneapolis-based psychologist, life coach, speaker, and author of Full Heart Living: Conversations with the Happiest People I Know. He’s now writing a book on Resilience Following Trauma. You’ll find three, new mini-documentaries on Resilience and Trauma at the Full Heart Living YouTube channel.